Tuesday, January 15, 2013

Raising Children With Autism and Aspergers

I'm almost afraid to admit how different my feelings are for my daughters.  One has autism and the other has aspergers.  Don't get me wrong I think they are both perfect.  I don't know what others believe but I believe God sent them and for what ever reasons he sent them they way they should be. 

DD#1 is just perfect.  I can't imagine her any other way than she is.  She can't control many of the ways she expresses herself and here we are.  She couldn't change if she wanted to.

DD#2 is also just perfect.  But I can and do remember wishing she was different.  Some days she is so reasonable and easy to deal with.  It ALMOST seems like she can control her behaviors.  Some days she's almost typical.  Then she has a really bad day.  I realize it just isn't so. 

Everyone has to plan for DD#1.  They know it and understand it.  We do our best to craft her environment to best meet her needs.  DD#2 is different.  I still find myself advocating for her on a regular basis.  I also find myself trying to convince her to do the things she should.

It's not a good or bad difference in my feelings between them.  I'm just aware it is hugely different.  Do you know what I mean? 

Sunday, January 13, 2013

DD Right Left Story

My daughter told me the funniest explanation.  She was arguing with her staff.  They wanted her to do something and she didn't want to do it.  Having a conversation with a person with Autism is sometimes a very interesting thing. 

I asked her why she didn't want to do it.  She said because she wanted to go left!  At first I didn't understand so I asked her again and got the same answer.  I'm sitting there trying to think of what to say and she tells me she didn't want to do the right thing.  She says she wanted to do the left thing.

The thing is she seemed to quite clearly understand what she was talking about.  I told she should do the right thing because she's supposed to do that.  She told me sometimes she just wanted to go left....

Lol, I just wonder who told her this and how they explained it.  She clearly got the difference between the right thing and the not right thing.  Lol. 

This is how my days go...  How is your day?