A friend told me about helping his brother. His brother had gotten SSI many many years ago. At some point the brother got a job and eventually lost the SSI. My friend talked about how rewarding and validating it had been for his brother.
Well in this down economy the brother lost his job. My friend has his brother living with him while they try to re-establish SSI or find another job. I remarked that I did not know if any of my children would do that.
My friend looked at me and in all ernestness told me, "Not as long as you're in the way." In a spit second I went from shocked to laughing. You know he is probably right.