Tuesday, November 26, 2019

Autism Doesn't Go Away

Autism Doesn't Go Away

It really doesn't.  People with Autism Spectrum Disorders may learn to cope better as an adult.  Maybe.  Or differently.  No not really.  I even hear adults with autism agree.  Autism doesn't go away. Then there is the fact that there is less supports to further complicate things.  

Many children and adults with autism, or at least the ones I know, seem to be emotionally and socially delayed.  It may be a lot delayed or it may be a little delayed.  I feel like saying it is the relationship silly...  From a parent, my own, point of view it is like dealing with a teenager all the time.  I am sure I have said this before.  

The effects of autism are like a perpetual cycle of rebellion.  Even when your child, now adult, is a competent major it is complicated. Even though they have a disability when they are a competent major they have the right to do what they please.  They should have that right just like everyone else.

What is harder is the teenage-ish tendency to just not agree for no other reason than you are their parent.  Even when they repeatedly come to you for help they don't want to use your suggestions.  My typical children did finally get to the point they took my help and my advice or they figured something else out.  

Maybe as my daughters get well into their 30's they will mature to the point they get it.  Maybe I will have to figure out a different strategy.  What do you do?  Do you have any strategies that might help?  Share in the comments.  

Saturday, November 23, 2019

Is It Autism Or Something Else?

Is It Autism or Something Else?

(She loves to take selfies 
and send them to me.)

Autism doesn't go away or just get better. Maybe it is different but Autism is still there. That said I am still amused at some of the things the girls, now adults, tell me.

DD#1 has state funded services. One of those services is Direct Support Personnel (DSP). These workers help her in her own appartment. They are supposed to HELP her do all the things you need to do to maintain your household. (They are also trained to help with Autism behavior issues too.)

So recently DD#2 called me:

DD#2: What are you doing?

M: Taking a nap. Who is your person today? (Standard question between us.)

DD#1: Ms. T, she is hanging up my clothes for me.

M: DD#1 you know how to hang up clothes. Why aren't you helping her?

DD#1: Because she is doing it for me.

M: DD#2 that's not how this works you are supposed to be helping her.

DD#2: Mom go back to sleep. Finish your nap.

Granted people with Autism are extremely honest but really? Then again maybe this is just a young adult asserting their independence. That is good. But then again maybe the DSP is just spoiling her....  What do you think?