Tuesday, December 3, 2019

Grandma Advocate

Grandma Advocate


One of the things I do for a living is work as a disabilty advocate. A lot of time it is in the educational system but not all the time. I help parents identify choices. I also help them identify the pros and cons of those choices.


Then I tell them the steps that will bring them closer to the options they choose. I have been doing this for my children for over 31 years and professionally for 25 years.  That is if you don't count the year and a half I volunteered. 

At this point it is in my blood. I recently went to an IEP meeting for one of my grandsons who has autism. I was vastly amused when the vice principal asked me if I was there as an advocate or as a grandma. I told her yes both. She rolled her eyes and looked at another vice principal at the meeting.  

I wondered several things. Do principals stop being teachers when they become principals? Do teachers stop being teachers when they leave the school? Although I understand separation of roles I am not sure how you stop using the information in your head.  

Anyway, my amusement for the week,
Mylinda

Tuesday, November 26, 2019

Autism Doesn't Go Away

Autism Doesn't Go Away


It really doesn't.  People with Autism Spectrum Disorders may learn to cope better as an adult.  Maybe.  Or differently.  No not really.  I even hear adults with autism agree.  Autism doesn't go away. Then there is the fact that there is less supports to further complicate things.  

Many children and adults with autism, or at least the ones I know, seem to be emotionally and socially delayed.  It may be a lot delayed or it may be a little delayed.  I feel like saying it is the relationship silly...  From a parent, my own, point of view it is like dealing with a teenager all the time.  I am sure I have said this before.  

The effects of autism are like a perpetual cycle of rebellion.  Even when your child, now adult, is a competent major it is complicated. Even though they have a disability when they are a competent major they have the right to do what they please.  They should have that right just like everyone else.

What is harder is the teenage-ish tendency to just not agree for no other reason than you are their parent.  Even when they repeatedly come to you for help they don't want to use your suggestions.  My typical children did finally get to the point they took my help and my advice or they figured something else out.  

Maybe as my daughters get well into their 30's they will mature to the point they get it.  Maybe I will have to figure out a different strategy.  What do you do?  Do you have any strategies that might help?  Share in the comments.  

Saturday, November 23, 2019

Is It Autism Or Something Else?

Is It Autism or Something Else?

(She loves to take selfies 
and send them to me.)

Autism doesn't go away or just get better. Maybe it is different but Autism is still there. That said I am still amused at some of the things the girls, now adults, tell me.



DD#1 has state funded services. One of those services is Direct Support Personnel (DSP). These workers help her in her own appartment. They are supposed to HELP her do all the things you need to do to maintain your household. (They are also trained to help with Autism behavior issues too.)




So recently DD#2 called me:

DD#2: What are you doing?

M: Taking a nap. Who is your person today? (Standard question between us.)

DD#1: Ms. T, she is hanging up my clothes for me.

M: DD#1 you know how to hang up clothes. Why aren't you helping her?

DD#1: Because she is doing it for me.

M: DD#2 that's not how this works you are supposed to be helping her.

DD#2: Mom go back to sleep. Finish your nap.



😯😶
Granted people with Autism are extremely honest but really? Then again maybe this is just a young adult asserting their independence. That is good. But then again maybe the DSP is just spoiling her....  What do you think?



Saturday, July 6, 2019

He Licked It

He Licked It



One of my daughter's has Aspergers.  She has two son's with Autism.  They all live with me which is good.  The youngest of the boys is 4 years old.  He and his brother have always licked things but his brother who is 5 years old has grown out of that, for the most part, thankfully.

The 4 year old has not.  We have to watch him when we are in different places to be careful what he might lick.  I got a new recliner.  It is red cloth.  When my son and son in law brought it to my house the boys started climbing on it and sitting in it.  Then it happened...the four year old licked it.  After the surprise we laughed.  I guess licking it was his way of baptising it into the family.  

Do you have a licker at your house?  Let me know in the comments.  We don't know any others. 

Tuesday, June 4, 2019

Four Ways to Qualify For Medicaid


I routinely get calls about families with children with autism and other disabilities needing more therapy or to see specialists that their insurance doesn’t cover.  It could be speech therapy, occupational therapy, ABA, etc. 

At some point the conversation works its way around to if their child had Medicaid it might help with some of the things the child needs that the family cannot afford above and beyond insurance.  Many families are surprised to learn there is more than one way to qualify for Medicaid.  You have four ways you might be able to qualify for Medicaid if you have a child with a disability that I know about.

The first way is to apply for Medicaid.  This sounds strange but many times parents are told by friends and professionals that they will not qualify when they do.  Medicaid takes strange things into account when you apply.  For instance they take into consideration all those medical bill you are paying out of pocket right now.  My experience with parents and Medicaid workers is the Medicaid worker will try to ask you about things you might not of thought about or might not know about as best they can if you explain your situation. 

The second way is what in our state is called the Family Opportunity Act.  It might be called something different in other states.  Louisiana has a program at the Medicaid office for families to be able to ‘buy in’ to Medicaid if they have a child with a disability.  There are other qualifications too.  If the person who answers the phone does not know about this specific program ask for a supervisor as this is a small program.  From what I understand from other parents the fee is very nominal especially compared to what they are or could be paying out of pocket. 

The third way to get Medicaid is if your child can get SSI.  In our state and some other states part of getting SSI is also getting the Medicaid card.  Parents are told from the beginning that income is a consideration and it is, but they should apply anyway.  The child also has to have a severe enough disability. Think about it like this.  If a child qualifies for even $5.00 of SSI they get a Medicaid card.  The cash assistance may not be encouraging to you but the Medicaid may be a big help.

The final way I know of to get a Medicaid card is though the state’s Community and Family Support Services.  These services are at your area Human Service Authority if you are in Louisiana.  If you are in another state ask at your state’s Office or Department of MR/DD.   If your child’s disability is severe enough your child could qualify for what is commonly called a Waiver.  One of the services you get as part of the Waiver is a Medicaid card.  The important part here is that if your child qualifies for the Waiver it is regardless of your income. 

I am sure there are other ways to qualify for a Medicaid card.  These are just the ones I know about for a child with a disability.  Some of these include adults with disabilities.  You have to ask though.  Do you know any other ways to qualify for Medicaid? 

It has been awhile..

It has been awhile.  I guess I ran out of things I wanted to write about.  Though occasionally I come across issues that I want to share.  Check out my next post.