I'm almost afraid to admit how different my feelings are for my daughters. One has autism and the other has aspergers. Don't get me wrong I think they are both perfect. I don't know what others believe but I believe God sent them and for what ever reasons he sent them they way they should be.
DD#1 is just perfect. I can't imagine her any other way than she is. She can't control many of the ways she expresses herself and here we are. She couldn't change if she wanted to.
DD#2 is also just perfect. But I can and do remember wishing she was different. Some days she is so reasonable and easy to deal with. It ALMOST seems like she can control her behaviors. Some days she's almost typical. Then she has a really bad day. I realize it just isn't so.
Everyone has to plan for DD#1. They know it and understand it. We do our best to craft her environment to best meet her needs. DD#2 is different. I still find myself advocating for her on a regular basis. I also find myself trying to convince her to do the things she should.
It's not a good or bad difference in my feelings between them. I'm just aware it is hugely different. Do you know what I mean?